In life we go through high and lows, good times and bad times. We are lucky to have loved ones to walk with through each season of life but have you ever found yourself looking for your “Gayle” or for men your “Johnathan”. In the past I’ve heard people say how they are looking for their Gayle and hearing that saying to me means looking for that close friend to share life with.
When I hear it to me it means having someone you relate to and love and look forward to spending time and speaking with in a none romantic way. Someone who is loyal, trustworthy and has your back through the good and bad. In life we will have good friends and some not so good. We also have a friend in Jesus and the Holy Spirit that walks with us and helps us through each day. But for those that are waiting for that/those close non toxic friendship/friendships I have some tips on what to do while you wait.
- First I want to say wait on God. You don’t wanna be yoked up with the wrong kind of person. We’ve done that enough. haha You deserve a friend that knows how to treat you. You don’t want the kind of friend that smiles in your face and talks behind your back. Wait on God. Don’t be in a rush to acquire friends. A friend today can be a head ache tomorrow. Making sure it’s God is important because he knows what’s in front of you and them. What’s works today may not work tomorrow. Don’t be desperate and make friends that are not good for you. While you wait just enjoy the season you’re in.
- Work on your character. What good is it for God to bring a great friend in our life for us to run them off with gossip, drama, or a bad attitude? We have to let God work on us through prayer and his word. We can also get books to learn how to grow in certain areas. If you meet a great friend and her spouse looks nice but you can’t handle that, that could destroy the friendship and what God was trying to do. We don’t just want to have a great friend, we want to be a great friend.
- Be open to differences. I think both friends should be believers but aside from that your “Gayle” or “Johnathan” may have more or less income than you. They may have more or less children than you. Don’t look at that. Look for the hidden treasure. They may be from a different background or culture than you. It may not look like what you think it will. There may even be a few years difference in age. None of these things should outweigh what’s most important. Is it God? Is it His plan for you to be connected to her or them? If so don’t shun it. Be open minded.
- Don’t expect perfection. Don’t expect no missteps to be made. Even as Christians we are still human and should be expected to do something wrong or unlikable at some point in the friendship. Sometimes it’s a no brainer to let a friendship go but don’t be quick to cut someone off based on minor things.
- Let God do it. This is big. Sometimes we see someone that looks nice and has a nice career and automatically want to connect and look over those that have less glamorous homes or careers. This is something we have to keep an eye on. I get it, we’re human but it’s not wise to connect with people solely based on the outer appearance and things. If they lost those things would you still want to connect? When Johnathan and David connected Johnathan had more and came from more but they instantly got that connection. Just don’t overthink it. Don’t size them up, you may miss out on your “forever friend” being worldly and carnally minded.
- Enjoy them while they’re in your life. Unfortunately nothing last forever and seasons change. People move. People get busy. Plus people die whether we like it or not. Once you have found a great friend appreciate them. Connect with them. Pray for them. Enjoy them while they are in your life so you can look back and smile at the good times you all had and can tell your children and grandchildren what a real friendship is! It’s a rare treasure to be appreciated.
All in all be led by the Spirit and keep your eyes and ears open because you may meet when you least expect it!
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